This is a bit of a touchy subject for me because on Father's Day husband made a big deal because I gave him car wash gift certificates. He complained to therapist (who sided with him) and everyone else about it. I was just thinking that he loved his car so much and I thought it would be useful. We never gave each other extravagant gifts so I was pretty shocked that he was so upset. MIL has always appreciated any gift.
Kids are going there on Christmas for a few hours. I was invited by husband, but am not going. I really am not in mood of being around MIL who will put on pretenses. I talk to the owner of the lotto ticket store more then he bothers to talk to me, so it seems silly to spend Christmas there. I have the feeling I was invited so husband would not have to drive back and forth to pick kids up. Or perhaps because they don't want their distant cousins knowing what is going on? Ok. I should stop speculating. I don't like pretending. i really don't want to do the drive either. And feel bad that boys will have to.
I also get annoyed that husband and MIL feel like it is so important to see them on Christmas, but did not find anything wrong with walking away from family for the rest of the year!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I know kids are not going to want to go there even for a little. I have a big family and we basically have people around all day. to leave in the middle of the day and then come back might not go over smooth. But husband and MIL will want to see them on Christmas. For one of my sons, transitioning can be a problem. I have the feeling there is going to be crying and latching to me.... This has been happening every other weekend. My son tells me in advance "mommy hold me really tight and don't let daddy take me". And "I don't want another sleep over until 10 years"
No one ever says anything bad about husband in front of kids. And once they are there, I hear they are fine. My MIL gives the, tons of attention and my husband is very nice to them when he is present. But they tell me on phone they want to come back. It could be they are super attached to me. Maybe they fear I will leave too? Maybe they just never really had much to do with husband. I am usually the fun one, so maybe that's it? I' don't know.
Sorry if I'm disorganized and all over the place.
Last edited by JulieH; 12/23/1503:23 AM.
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
