V, I have a question for you. I saw you mention on another thread which I can't find now, that when FOO issues are addressed there can be a sudden shift. You know the issues with my H. His FOO issues run deep and he is in extremely deep denial, projecting all of those problems on to me. He has been in IC now for maybe 8 months? There has been some progress. I believe a lot is happening quietly as he does not talk to me. The most relevant to me and our M is that he has started setting some boundaries with his parents as to what he will and will not discuss re the marriage and me. Not 100% there yet, he still talks about me and gets "their side" but much less and much less spew.
So my question, is where is this shift? It might never happen, right?
Today we had family therapy. Only our 2nd session. Me, H and D14. The therapist told H that he had an unhealthy alliance with his parents and that set him off big time. He was so angry. She picked up on it, I said very little. So anyway, what is your opinion? Is family therapy going to help or is she pushing him too hard? I assume there is a reason why his IC is moving so slowly, but I just don't know what to think. We have 2 sessions scheduled next week before he leaves. What do you think? I am leaning towards get it all out before he leaves, but maybe there is a reason his IC is taking it slowly? Then again, maybe she is taking it too slowly? What is your opinion V?
