Just reporting. H texted to know what my youngest wanted for Xmas, I told him that I didn't know what she told him as I had never heard of the game. So he texted back asking me to ask her. I replied saying that he could call and I'll put her on the phone. She answered his questions and she asked him 5 times when he was coming back home. He told her the first time that she asked that he'll see them tomorrow, but when she asked her the other times he went silent, then at her last question he changed subject!
He won't man up and tell them that he is never coming back and expects me to do it for him. I'm afraid I'm not. They both have been asking me this questions for a month, and I told then that they need to ask him the question as I don't have the answer.
For me his silence says it all! There is no way back for him. He is enjoying his single life (going out when he wants and he has found someone who lolls after him better than I did). I don't know OW arrangements with kids but I do know that her mother does a lot of babysitting for her. Whereas me I have no family around to help and when I go out it costs me money. So now there is no way I could have competed with her!
In a way I'm sad that he won't come back, but on the other hand I have to stop hoping that he'll come back! I guess it's the end of the road for me. It hurts like hell but if I work on myself and stop my mind going crazy, I'll be fine!
Shame that he can't see past his needs and pour his family first, but his dad has never done it, so why should my H do the same!
