LBH w/ a WXW after the D - now what

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tl2
I really like what you said about making personal investments in myself that will pay off in the future. As I take time for myself I'm going to try to remember not to feel guilty because I'm not with D4 or my family has fallen apart but instead focus on how this time is making me a better me. Who will eventually be a better Dad, a better friend and maybe a better H someday.

angel r,
Thank you for stopping by. You are so right about being who I want to be instead of who she manipulated me to be. I was even thinking about it this morning as I was making the bed. I made several adjustments trying to make it perfect and then I thought "what the heck am I doing? The bed being perfect isn't me. That's her OCD, That's her problem". I have several things that I do not because it's how I would do them but I do it in order to not tick her off. Such as leaving a dish in the sink with plans to wash it later or leaving my shoes beside my desk in my office the way I want them. I put them in the closet thinking "better put them away so she doesn't get mad". Ugh! Lately when I catch myself doing this I get a crappy feeling in my gut.

All of life's most valuable lessons are learned from turmoil.