I was given sound advice many years ago. I was told that nobody had the power to make me sad, angry, upset, hurt, disappointed, etc., unless I allowed it. That advice can be applied to every area of our lives.........and with any person.
If you can apply this to your situation with your W, I think you will be surprised at how liberated you will feel.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!