At the end, she said that she wasn't in a place where she could decide what she wanted with us, that she didn't want to make any promises, or for me to get my hopes up. I told her I can accept her thoughts, and be okay with that.
What did you mean when you said you could accept her thoughts and be okay with that? What did you really mean?
IMHO, you should turn your focus on everything in your life......expect your W. And you do not have to be cold. What she said to you is what we call script. Those are the same lines other WW's say to their LBH'S. Here's the translation: "I am placing you on hold, until I see if plan A comes through. If plan A doesn't work out, then you will be my plan B. I know you will be there, always wanting me, regardless of how sh'tty I have treated you".
So, why not move forward and enjoy this time you have, instead of living in agony, waiting to see what she decides? I promise you, it will serve you much better than trying to persuade her to change her mind about staying M to you.
Moving forward does not mean you go file for a D. It means to have a life without it centered around her.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
