Please listen to me, Trumpet. If she will not gladly agree to transparency, then she has not really cut it off with OM. She is leaving a back door open.
You will never have a close relationship as long as there is trust. You have made the right move in opening yourself by giving her your passwords. The fact that she "claims" she ended the EA means nothing if she refuses to open herself to you by giving you access to her email, etc. it's that simple.
Remember, the burden of proof is on her. Do not accept her back into your open arms until she is willing to do whatever it takes to save her M, b/c she's just putting up a smoke screen. She isn't doing anything to get over OM and work on the M.
As long as she refuses transparency, just mark what she says as lies.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
