I spoke to a coworker yesterday, who a year after his D had his XW move back in with him. He said to just go live your life, don't be mean or stupid, and she may decide to come back. Don't hinge your life on that. Don't pass up opportunities to have fun with buddies, or even date. That is how it worked for him.
Seems like simple, sound advice.
It is. It's what's best for all of us in this sitch. The future is coming at us whether we like it or not. We have a good bit of choice over whether it's going to be positive or negative, whether it's progress or pain.
You might be like me a little in that you find the prospect of thinking about big life decisions in a very different future off-putting. I'm not comfortable with that yet. But I am comfortable reminding myself that life isn't over, the future will be good, that much in my life remains good.
So I'm continuing to do things and try and think things that keep me on that path for today. I look at it as investing in the future that will pay off someday, one way or another. For right now, I'm continuing my work on myself and being there for the kids.
