I'm sorry he's acting like a horses behind right now. Notice how he was ignoring what you were saying? It's all about him and what he wants right now. He's got a lot of guilt because he had to add that he was coming alone, i.e., something you didn't ask him about as well as shooting a dart at you as well.
Well, I would be home that day, but in another room. I would have Christmas music playing and be doing some baking. Get some nice holiday scented candles and have those bad boys burning when he comes. He needs a good swift kick in the memory department of what the holidays were like as a family unit.
Please keep your expectations at zero. Your h may come and act cold and impersonal towards you. He may not make eye contact w/you or even speak to you...understand that this is the only way that he can return to his home and be around you right now. They have to do this because they think we are the enemy. Nothing against you...it's not about you, but what they think they have to do in order to survive. I hope that I am wrong about this, but I've seen it quite often around the forum.
Whatever you do, stay calm and civil. Be yourself and do not allow him to rattle you to the point of having heated discussions. If it gets too heated, walk away and find something to do...after all, he's coming there to visit his daughter and Christmas is all about the children.
Good luck! Come here if you need additional support.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
