Yesterday evening I went to my IC session - she is a qualified psychotherapist and sex therapist - and is really helping me a lot to get through this.
I told her about the fight W and I had on Sunday am, and also about the child sex abuse W had suffered as a 3/4 year old.
Also the 'grief' W is going through with the sudden terminal illness of her Father - the guilt, remorse, regret, love and hate W has felt for her Father.
We will explore how all these factors have influenced W's life choices over the years - her destructive behaviour, her driven behaviour, her perfectionist tendencies, her promiscuity at University and beyond, her use of anal sex toys, her binge drinking,
Other thoughts from the councellor
W's need to hear the words ILY as her father never,ever said them to her (NB I didnt know this until Sunday). But she used to complain i didnt say ILY enough.
W's 'All or Nothing' nature. She either loves someone or doesn't - there is no in-between and love is a feeling not a choice. W never letting men get close to her - she always finished the relationship first - i was the first she truly loved but I had to say ILY first...W was insistant. W's self worth self esteem issues, her need to be 'liked' on FB is obsessive
I have another session in a week.
Last edited by isittoolate; 12/22/1501:30 PM.
Me49 W45 T15 M13 S11 S8 BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12 Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12 W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing! May-Oct14 drifting Dec 14 W agrees to more QT BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY W filed 1/25/16
