Bfice, could you explain more about your M history. What you two fought about, what she complained about, what you complained about. How both of you interacted. You have some great advice on your thread already.
I can tell you now the way you reacted to her phone conversation was very needy and weak. You left the house trying to get a reaction out of her and it likely just added to her resentment and disrespect of you. Did you often try to get her affection during the M and act that way? Saying things such as "if you really loved me you would...". Im not trying to beat you down, I did the same and it's often a quality of a "nice guy". You asking before if it was too much to expect someone to be nice to you after being nice to them. It is when you have a covert contract and end up being a jerk right afterward when they don't reciprocate the niceness. Also the thought process that if you do everything right things will work out is another sign.
Anyway, explore what makes you tick and why you acted the way you did in your M. Growth is there for those that dig and do the work. It's not easy but the outcome is worth it.
As for the differences in a WW to a WAW, there are some and they do require different strategies but there are much more similarities than differences. You could have a very polite WW compared to a very disrespectful WAS. Each sitch is going to be different. What you need to be doing stays very similiar and based on whays happening so don't focus too much on the label.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
