FO.2 thank you very much for your reply. I think they both aren't ready to understand/ hear about the OW. I feel that there are no consequences for what he has done, and I have to be true to myself and if I want to tell my kids about their dad it's because I want they to see who he really is: a liar, a cheater and a coward. I know that I'll be only hurting them and I would never do that to them.
My family thinks I should tell my kids the while truth but even if it'll bring me relief, they didn't ask for what is happening to them and they should be protected as much as possible. Although I feel that when he'll introduce OW to them, I'll only then tell them the truth. I have been lied by parents on several occasion and I gave always wow to myself that I'll never do that to my kids.
There will be no right decision as the kids won't like the truth, but when they'll be older they can hate me because I didn't tell them the truth . I don't bad mouth to them about their dad. I guess in the long run H will realise that I wasn't such a bad catch, but by then I'll be far gone. Shame as I feel our M could have been saved.
