Hi to Pinn and Question for Sandi. Just trying to get through the holidays and not get involved in her drama. Just when I think we can at least be friends, she goes crazy again. Had the nerve to tell me passive aggressively, "I feel that you are hurting... especially so since you brought this on yourself". Wow! She is still punishing me and trying to pressure me to agreeing to let her stay in the house and still projecting everthing onto me and taking no personal responsility for her choices whatsoever.
Sandi, I have read hundreds of your posts and one thing that hit home with me was you saying you couldn't even stand to be in the same room as you H. You so totally resented him. I see that a little bit of FU in affairs, there is anger at the LBS for not doing more. Maybe a bit of "see what you made me do?!" You also mentioned he was a passive nice guy and that may have lengthened your R process. What actually happened that finally allowed you to want to be in the same room as him? If you were totally done and just wanted to get away, what changed? Did it have anything to do with him and his actions, or in your case was it all you and coming to the boards and talking to people here?
H:54 W:46 D:11 D:21 M:12 BD:1/15 In-house Separation 2/15 DB started 7/15, W sees consistency 9/15 Dropping the rope and having her leave 2/16, moves 5/16 Reconciliation 1/17 Obviously still struggling
