When I set limits, she gets huffy like a child, and I can see that she is in a very selfish place, unable to fathom what it takes to grow up and respect herself, the OM, and me by taking control of her own choices and having some integrity and being a person who is worthy of trust.
Originally Posted By: JGuy
It's as though she can't fathom that I have a right to set limits so that I'm not completely trampled by her reckless behavior and choices.
Im not sure thinking about this as "setting limits" is a healthy term. You dont want to be thinking about this as restricting her ability to make choices. Instead, youre intent is protect yourself.
It's not: "You cant contact OM or else Im leaving." It's: "I wont be with you while youre contacting OM."
This choice is hers to make, not yours. So when you make that choice for her, its not surprising that she gets "huffy".
