Why did you 'have' to drive by the inlaws? My inlaws live 4 houses down from my parents and about a mile from me. I never, ever drive by their house to avoid the very thing that you mention bothered you so much.
It was my fault for letting this person get under my skin, but I wasn't the only one bothered.
I do suppose there is a difference between best way and the way I should have gone to avoid it. I could have made more of an effort to avoid the house, but it would have been way out of the way. It will definitely be something I need to do to avoid triggers.
Me:34 W:33 R: 15 years M: 7 years W moved out: 11/21/15 BD: 11/20/15 - ILYBINILWY, PA once LRT: 12/14/15
Turned the rest of the night around with a movie and some friends, and felt pretty well. First time I had cooked anything in over a month. Cooking has always been my biggest passion, and one of the connections the wife and I shared. Cooking is how I give myself to people, it is how I communicate with people. It felt food to not let the situation dictate whether or not I would still enjoy cooking.
Had another conversation last night with my "aunt" who is one of my mom's old friends who I hadn't kept in contact very well over the years since mom passed. Probably going to see her over the weekend.
Woke up and had a great workout this morning.
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Me:34 W:33 R: 15 years M: 7 years W moved out: 11/21/15 BD: 11/20/15 - ILYBINILWY, PA once LRT: 12/14/15
Had a pretty good day yesterday. Saw the new Star Wars movie with friends that I wouldn't normally hang out with during the week. I was so locked into wanting to see it with the W, that I was holding out for her to see it, and I just decided to go see it for myself. Started feeling a little low afterwards, but I turned it around by talking to a friend who lives out of state to catch up. Spent the rest of the night watching videos on self improvement.
Woke up late this morning, and had to do a half workout, but I still feel pretty good. This is more like me, and less like the sad pathetic me. I always have a hard time waking up, and since all of this happened, I have a hard time sleeping. Oversleeping is a good sign, although my motivation to not snooze 10 times is new and a great thing.
I have my first therapy appointment, first DB coaching session, and a chiropractor appointment today. The new chiropractor is really helping with my vertigo and headaches. I hadn't been in so long that I was really feeling like crap long before all of this happened. Amazing how the attitude changes when you don't have headaches all the time.
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Me:34 W:33 R: 15 years M: 7 years W moved out: 11/21/15 BD: 11/20/15 - ILYBINILWY, PA once LRT: 12/14/15
I was given sound advice many years ago. I was told that nobody had the power to make me sad, angry, upset, hurt, disappointed, etc., unless I allowed it. That advice can be applied to every area of our lives.........and with any person.
If you can apply this to your situation with your W, I think you will be surprised at how liberated you will feel.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I have always had this problem, but it is magnified 100x with everything going on with the W.
I just had my boss basically say, I know that two other people screwed up before you, but you have to fix X before Y date. All of this when I am having a hard time working, focusing, and functioning. The end result is a day that started well, I feel like it is all falling apart because the work stress and anxiety is bringing the W and M problems back to the surface.
I otherwise would never realize the two are linked, except for the fact that they are magnified so much right now.
Me:34 W:33 R: 15 years M: 7 years W moved out: 11/21/15 BD: 11/20/15 - ILYBINILWY, PA once LRT: 12/14/15
Yesterday afternoon was tough, but I turned it around at night. Good chiropractic visit, first individual therapy appointment, and first DB coach appointment. Both were more or less just introductory, but I got some reading homework from the DB coach. Went out late last night and found both books at the local Barnes and Noble.
Today has been great so far. Woke up early, gym at work, haircut at work, shower, then breakfast with the only other guy in the whole division who is here LOL.
Dinner the guys tonight. Let's go!
Me:34 W:33 R: 15 years M: 7 years W moved out: 11/21/15 BD: 11/20/15 - ILYBINILWY, PA once LRT: 12/14/15
