December Evolution / Taking a stand.

[Vanilla]

Anc

I am going to make a suggestion to you as you are currently housebound. I am going to ask you to write your life story as if it were a novel.

You can do this on your tablet or laptop.

Pick a chapter that's easy, your student days, or the relaxed days of your family life. Then write and write and write.

I would like you to do this in a particular way, as if in the third person. As in Anc said x then did y she felt w. Outline a sketch of it. Then pick a part and write until your arms ache.

It doesn't have to be perfect and it's for home consumption. It can be short or long, ignore grammar, punctuation, concentrate on meaning. It can be edited later. You don't have to keep it.

It's your story, put down the good stuff, the bad stuff, the happy stuff, the sad stuff.

You write beautifully, your description of the court was vivid and three dimensional, I walked those stone corridors with you, I could be there because of your writing. Your descriptions are wonderful and full of life.

There is a tendency when we go through this to see only the current memories, they loom large, we imagine the present position continues forever. It's like investors always think the stock market travels in the direction it's going. Down, it will always go down, up it will always boom. It's nonsense and the underlying value of most companies remains as it is irrespective of how others see it. If your house is a home, it doesn't matter there is a recession. Do you know it's best to move house up market in a recession and down market in a boom? But most people hang on to maximise the current value of their home when moving up market. DUH!

You are a whole person, you have survived much and thrived through a great deal to bring some wonderful children into the world. You are more than your current sitch.

If you were nearer you could live and work with me, I would have you here in a jiffy. I am not the only one.

I agree with Jellyb and her remarks on her thread. A STHM or STHF contributes to the home and has a share in the value of the assets built. A share in the pensions, an equal share, they make it possible for their partner to provide without the stress of home making. This has a value, and it's yours. You have worked hard for that value, it is your legal entitlement on D for your share. Your L is a strong ally in this.

Mustardseed is fighting for her share, I wished I had been less wrapped in my sitch and I might have spotted it sooner with her WH.

They are of a type these WH and WW who believe they should get everything.

Anc, whilst you wait and January 6 isn't too far away, there is work to do in healing. You are other than crazy, well no more than the rest of us.

Box of frogs!

Hugs

V