Merry Christmas, Claire! You deserve a peaceful and joyful holiday, and it sounds like you have one in store. So glad you know what's important and articulate the gratitude for it. You're a good egg.
I don't know if you have read any of Cheryl Richardson's stuff, but she's all about self care. I love her. She is also a guest at the I Can Do It workshops (I went to one in 2014, and it was awesome) and she has a website. You might enjoy her touch of grace cards. They're affirming and positive. I can't make any specific recommendations here, but anything of hers would be awesome. Also Marianne Williamson. They make my heart feel grounded.
Have a wonderful day with your D4!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."