Julie, I am thinking many of the same thoughts as you. I want to be pursued. My H is not mentally in a position to pursue right now though. I do get interest from other men, and its flattering, but I can't do anything about it until we are least filed for D, and I am not filling.
Right after BD my H started pushing for me to go back to work. I had issues with my daughter, then 3 kids home during the summer, so I never went back. I have been doing some job hunting in the past few months and had a couple of interviews, but so far nothing has worked out for me. I am hoping the timing will work out in January.
If I don't find a job in my previous field, I am willing to try something new.
