So, my H texts me out of the blue... I made notes on the D papers to help him figure them out. There is a waiver he wanted me to sign so that we dont have to wait the 90 days. I flat out said no.
So he texted me asking why I am dragging out the D. I tried so hard to validate and like job suggested NOT to criticize.
job warned me NOT to take the bait. I did not listen...
H: why do you want to drag this out?
Me: I understand why you would think that. That is not my goal. I am 100% on board for the divorce.
H: then why not sign the waiver and get it over with?
Me: It will be over with soon enough, once you file.
H: Just explain so I can understand
Me: There is nothing to explain. This is the normal divorce process.
H: There's no need to prolong this. You can be free within 10 days and we can go on with out lives. Why drag it out for 3 months?
H: We have never done anything normal why start now lol
Me: I am very sorry if this is stressing you. But I cant help you. I have to get ready for Star Wars tonight so I have to go now. ------------------------------- Now, a smart person, who listens to the wise advice on this board would have ended the d@mn conversation here...
Dont let him bait you. This was my clear instructions...
(BTW, I am typing below as is, so auto-correct on the smartphones make it a bit confusing at some points. -------------------------------
H: I'm not dressed in confused. One day you say bring me the papers I'll sign everything right now the the next you want to drag it out.
H: your nice your mean. You want to be friends then you hate me. Make up your mind for all pls.
Me: I'm sorry, but you don't have to deal with it anymore. Relax, you are getting everything you wished for, and you are correct for wishing it. Everything is good now H, no need to fight.
H: I'm not fighting with you. But just in clear. What exactly do you think I wished for? Just curious as to what you're thinking.
Me: To get away from me of course
H: I don't want to get away from nice Mona. You will always be in my life one way or another. It's the mean and confusing Mona I can do without.
---------------------------------- Now I am screaming at myself SHUT UP MONA... Just SHUT UP
Nope......
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Me: No problem. Mission accomplished
H: OK. I see there is no more to say. You are in your f off mode. Have a great day and enjoy your movie
---------------------------------- You did it, now shut up, please
Nope...
I made him mad and when I make him mad I get so scared... So I felt I had to immediately fix it. Because I am an idiot. ----------------------------------
Me: I am not. I think you are misreading my text messages in a way I don't mean.
Me: Toward you, I will never be in f off mode (Why did I text this to him, what is wrong with me?????)
Me: Just because I cant do what you say.
Me: You are also Dr Jeckell and Mr Hyde. If I agree to your demands you say nice things...
H: What? Did you not just read that I wished you a great day lol
H: I always say hi first and end with wishing you the best
H: the only time I've gotten natty is when you jumped down my throat.
Me: You did not say hi today
H: That's cuz I was really confused.
Me: You jumped all over me. But hey, at least you texted me. You refuse to speak to me at all because I dont give you money.
Me: I'm gonna go now. I dont want a fight, I have a big night planned and I want to stay happy.
H: Ugh I'm in 3rd shift you know how I am on this shift. I sleep and work. Was not my intention to give you that idea ----------------------- lie... ----------------------- H: Again, I'm not fighting. See the lol behind my sentences
H: Not looking for a fight
H: But OK. Enjoy your day and have fun
-------------------------------- For the love of God Mona, please shut up now! It is over
Nope..... About an hour later I was dying to know why he needed a D so quickly, so like an idiot I asked what I was thinking --------------------------------
Me: Real quick... Did you promise her you would marry her in the next 90 days?
(Yes, that is how stupid I am... That is really what I asked.)
H: GET MARRIED!!!! ARE YOU OUT OF YOUR MIND lol
H: I dont have s%^t to offer anybody. Who in the world would marry me as I am lmao
H: Scraping for quarters for food, gas and ciggs. Playing the bill game just so nothing gets shut off. Yeah I'm a really good catch lol
Me: Then give me my 90 days. It is a shield for me and has nothing to do with you.
H:This has nothing to do with anyone else. I just need this to be finalized.
That was me criticizing and jumping to the bait. I am the worst DB'er I swear, lol
Then I made a mistake yesterday. It's OK to laugh, I giggle every time I think about it.
I was in the middle of texting Chris. He wanted to know what time I would get to the dance last night. Well, my S had a basketball game, so I sent a quick text to My H to see if he could get S to the game so I could get to the dance earlier.
Then, I THOUGHT I was texting Chris.... Nope.... I texted my H! By accident! It was nothing bad, just logistics to get to the dance, but OMG.
It does not really matter to me what I said to H above. He is the one who should be very very worried about what he says to me right now, not the other way around. Yep, I still choose him above all, but it is becoming a very thin margin.
Me: 42 H: 45 M: 18 yrs T: 20 yrs D: 17 D: 15 S: 12 I kicked him out 8/21/15 I will DB until March 21st 2017, that is it!
