She's thinking of leaving again2

[Sotto]

Hi Scrant, it sounds as though you handled that pretty well my friend. It's no bad thing if she wants to move things forward. Getting financials settled will be a good thing for you and S in all circumstances. I took the stance of pushing forward on financials, but was unwilling to file for D.

You've told your W you love her and I think that's okay. Now you have done that, best to settle in for some more solid DBing. I don't think it pays to repeatedly tell someone ILY. However, for me after months of solid DBing, I let my H know that I loved him and that D wasn't my choice. He did decide to file after that, but that's on him and I feel (relatively!) at peace with how things have progressed since then.

So, time to get the financials resolved and make some solid GAL plans for 2016. Try not to look over your shoulder - back isn't the way you are going - and leave your W to live the path she has chosen. In the much longer term, who knows how things may play out.

I think you are doing well Scrant, for so early in the process. That says a lot about your own strength and stability when in crisis I think. Good for you.

Take care my friend xx