That's just it, you tell her you won't live in an open M. So, if she continues her affair, the monkey is on your back. I have seen a lot of LBH'S use, "I will not live in an open M", and then when the WW didn't blink an eye and continued the A, he would want to back pedal out of what he told her. They thought telling her they wouldn't live in an open M, would shake sence into her and end the A. It didn't, and then the men didn't want to do what they said they would do.
If you tell her anything, you have to back it up or you place yourself in a worse position. The WW is likely to test what you say.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
