I posted to you on my thread, in response to your post yesterday.
Sweet Judy, for what little experience I have and for what it is worth. There is nothing my Mr Ex could explain to me that would allow me to understand the the unexplainable and inexcusable. You Mr EX walked out on our commitment, without effort, without love, without discussion, and without regard for me and us. The action speaks for itself.
Whatever reconnection or reconciliation that Mr Ex may or may not want in the future, means that I have to come to terms with this explanation. And that means I say where and when and if he ever gets a second chance. I can tell you now, bloody unlikely!