Recent Hurricane

[NateG79]

Thanks Fogg.
So just to catch up. Tonight, WW asked me when I got off work if I would come over to spend time with D2 since she's been asking for me. I went over, it was....pleasant enough. We had small chit chat, she made dinner, and I stayed and ate. I left when it was time for my D2 to take a bath. I came home, watched some football, cleaned up the house a little. Got several texts from W saying how D2 kept finding some video on youtube that was not appropriate even though the filter was on. Didn't pay it much attention.

She texted me when it was time for D2 to go down to bed, so I called, did our goodnight routine, and then said goodnight. I then told W that we did indeed need to talk, since we haven't really had much conversation since the move out. She said that maybe we should, to see where we are.

My thoughts on this, is that I'm going to address the elephant in the room. I'm going to let her know that I know of her continued A with OM, that I know who he is, and that I will not be party to allow her to try to control me while she continues it. I will calmly let her know that our interactions will continue as they have been 'til now (she's complained that I'm very cold and distant and I don't pay attention to her when she's around) because I will not show her tenderness while she continues the A and disrespects me.

I will let her know that I'm not okay with just being a possible Plan B if things don't work out w/him (I highly doubt they will, he has too much to lose). I will let her know that I have essentially dropped the rope, and I will not be a pawn in her game. I will not wait for her indefinitely to figure out what she wants. I will do things to move on with my life with or without her. If she begins to spew, and get angry at me, I'll validate her feelings, let her know that I will not be disrespected in that way, and calmly remove myself from the conversation.

I'll also let her know that, if at all possible I still would like to try and work together on forgiveness, and maybe piece ourselves back together, but whatever decision she makes will be fine with me. Any thoughts on this?