December Evolution / Taking a stand.

[mahhhty]

I had these same thoughts. "If only I could understand, I could accept it better" or "... I could move on" or ".... I could do something." Blah blah blah.

I had all of those thoughts. What I have come to learn is that you don't need any of it. The fact that you want it is b/c we (LBS) are holding on to something to try and rationalize something that is quite possibly not rationalize-able.

To Zues's point... They have no idea what they are doing. In many cases they are so tied up in their own interoperation of thoughts, feelings, etc that they are confused and flying by their gut. In other cases with an OP they are in full limerence, and are then a kid with a drug.

My vote. Tell yourself this isn't a realization I NEED, it is something my old brain WANTS to try to figure out a situation I will not fully understand. Nor do I need to. What I need to do is GAL, 180 and Detach.