You ask some good questions and have viable concerns.
My take is just my opinion. I've studied MLC(since I went through one) and have read many books on the subject. Human psychology interests me greatly due to the things that have happened in my life.
I don't think it's genetic. But I think parents by there actions give their children a road map on how to handle life and the ups and downs that come with it. Understand most parents were only taught the tools they had learned or saw from their parents....but the world is constantly changing.
I'll tell you what my daughter has said to me and hopefully this gives you some comfort.
She has said occasionally " I hope I don't end up like mom" and then we have the conversation that she is lucky. She gets to see an MLC happen before her eyes. She see's how her mom has handled things and how I handle things. She see's batchit crazy versus calm, patience. She gets to see actions. WE discuss this in detail. She really gets it.
NOW......It is up to her what she decides when life starts getting tough in her later years. When the demons call. Based on the conversations we have and she is a smart girl....she understands more than she ever could.
I think your girls have learned many lessons from your actions that you do not see. You have given them tools. Don't be surprised at the things they have learned. I like their chances.
