Sounds like you think your H is incapable of change. I bet that's what he thought about you when he gave up on the M.

Yes, he might not change, and if he does it might be too late for you to R. Just be careful about going down this road too far. Love the sinner, hate the sin. While I hate the decisions they are making they may find their way back on to a healthier path in the future. It used to torment me to think XW would become an awesome wife just in time for another guy, but after I dropped the rope I realized I hoped she did recover. I don't want to see anyone suffer. And while their actions are addiction driven, their unfulfilled needs and pain were very real, not to be dismissed.

Me:38 XW:38
T:11 years M:8 years
Kids: S14, D11, D7
BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15