Julie, there is something you posted on my thread that I'd really like to discuss. Short on time right now, so I want to get back to you when I have the time to really think on it. You said if either of our H's came here, the advice they would receive would be the opposite of what would work.
I think yes, if they read Sandi's rules (sorry Sandi!) yes it would backfire. But I think if they actually posted, the vets around here would pull out the story and the truth and set them on the right path towards 180's and listening and validating and taking responsibility for themselves. So the trick would be for them to 1- get here, 2- get out of lurker mode and actually share their story, and 3- then I think we'd have a huge help in guiding them back "home."
I'd like to talk with you a little more about this, not about luring our H's to this site, because I am not about to direct H anywhere, I have accepted that he is on his own journey and I don't point him towards articles, books, websites, haven't since about one week post BD (figured that one out on my own pretty quickly,lol) . But I'd still like to chat and flush out the differences, in the hopes that maybe we could point some future waywards on the right path, and maybe just help each other get our minds wrapped around things better. It is an interesting topic.
