Always delightful to hear from you. You should definitely be my neighbor! You're one of my favs.
Yeah I didn't see much point in posting in Newcomers any more. The deed is done, nothing to bust anymore. She clearly moved on a long, long time ago even though she just moved out a couple months ago. I'm moving on as well.
Consequences and fallout remain of course. I learned (weeks after everyone else in her family did) that my ex-FIL has a serious heart condition that could result in death at any time. He is currently awaiting treatment. He and I were (are?) very close and I love him very much. He's been like a second father to me in many ways. We used to hunt together, fish together, talk about life and kids and religion and politics. He was honest and direct with me as well as compassionate and kind. When the XW and I married, she and her dad were somewhat estranged and I encouraged her to reach out and make peace, which she eventually did. I encouraged them to come visit as often as possible and never missed a chance to visit them. A couple of years ago I started renting a place at the beach specifically so the X and I could go and invite our parents down to spend a few days because I didn't think we got to see them enough these days, they're getting on in years so time is more precious, and they've done so many nice things for me/us over the years I wanted to do something for them.
So they mean a lot to me, and he does in particular, and it was difficult learning of the illness itself, and doubly so being I was the last to hear about it. Heard it from my son but later got a text from the XW about it. Knowing what my relationship with exFIL is I of course was irritated that it took so long for her to let me know, and had to invoke the mantra (Not my circus. Not my monkeys...aka, Not my bats. Not my belfry).
I will be visiting him over the holidays since I will be up at my parents' and they live just a couple of miles away from my ex in-laws.
A strange existence, this post-D world. Adapt or die.
