Mutatio and Ancaire, I already did my lists a few months ago and now I am perfect! H hasn't noticed at all though!
Just kidding, I did make some changes and I have released myself from 90% of my guilt and self hatred feelings. The next thing I need to work on is keeping up with the messes around here- I wouldn't say its a pigsty around here but I am always embarrassed if someone stops by unexpectedly.
We all make mistakes. Don't be too hard on yourselves. You are both very strong, compassionate, responsible and kind. That trumps everything else imo. Go work on yourselves, of course, but know that you are both pretty awesome to begin with.
