Mahhty, because the bitching, whining and moaning I'll have to listen to it I don't prob won't be worth it. Because I'm hoping he'll change his mind (yes, I know) Because maybe it'll make me look good and as if I'm trying. And understanding of the financial difficulties in this situation. I dunno, grasping for straws here.
Grlonfr, I wish it was recent guilt, it's years of resentment.
Got another email. He says I need to confront and deal with things, that the fear is paralyzing me. He's coming back to the apartment on Saturday as he can't afford hotels and he can't stay with friends anymore. By the New Year I should have a realistic, primarily financial plan for D and myself. His project isn't happening which means he's going to run out of money by March - there's a safety net in Europe.
He says he's saddened it's so hard for us to talk, but if I can to write or call him.
I know he's making valid points and that I'm not supposed to use the word unfair, but wtf. I've lived here for more than a decade. I also don't know what this means in terms of spousal and child support. Fudge!!!
Gmum, I think it is past time to just talk to a lawyer. You have to see what your options are. You can make an educated decision then and not just rely on his words.
Me: 42 H: 45 M: 18 yrs T: 20 yrs D: 17 D: 15 S: 12 I kicked him out 8/21/15 I will DB until March 21st 2017, that is it!
Mahhty, because the bitching, whining and moaning I'll have to listen to it I don't prob won't be worth it. Because I'm hoping he'll change his mind (yes, I know) Because maybe it'll make me look good and as if I'm trying. And understanding of the financial difficulties in this situation. I dunno, grasping for straws here.
Gmum - Its time to take a stand. He shouldn't come back unless he wants to be in a relationship....
How about something like this.... "At some point all relationships get to a dark place, I am trying to step out of your way so that you can do what you believe you have to. But, I can't deal with you coming back to the house unless you want to work on us, which will not be easy."
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
Ugh! I had to tell D he was coming. She helped me set up the air mattress in the living room and I even made extra dinner for him. She's super excited to see him. Then he texts that he found a place for a few days, but maybe he can spend the night here on Christmas. I was totally counting on being able to sleep in tomorrow for the first time in a veeery long time. What a douche.
Mahhty and Mona, I think I'm ready to play hard ball if he refuses to compromise with me regarding certain things. We'll have to see how things play out over the next few days.
