Thanks for the reply. I remember you from 2006/2007 I think!
I do believe this round was kicked off by an MLC for the XW as well. She turned 40 this year; started dying the few grey strands out of her hair, obsessing about her weight (she was not overweight in the least...I thought she actually looked better than ever...had a short, cute, milfy thing going)...several other typical signs. For the last few years her besties have all been single women with troubled marriages, divorced, widowed, etc. At least one was a cheater herself.
I actually had a pretty good life all along and have been doing new things I wanted...most really revolve around work. I work for startups mainly and so there's been a lot of interesting challenges and opportunities there, some travel, learning new skills etc. Been really great overall.
As far as doing any crazy thing I want...honestly, I did all that in my early to mid-twenties. Got whatever I really wanted to out of my system. I was 28 when we married and I was ready to be married. Perhaps it's too new and things will change, but I really loved being married and love typical family life.
Hard at this time of year but I'm adapting. Adapt or die.
But family life suits me and always has. So far just been reconnecting with old friends (having my 30 year HS reunion this year helped), doing a bit more with newer friends, spending a lot of time with my sons...one of whom had been a bit distant for a while but this has brought him back in a bit so it's been really nice to have more time with him.
I love asian food and now have to cook for myself (XW was an awesome, awesome cook) so will prob take an Asian cooking class. Really, though, I've had a blessed life and have gotten to do most everything I really wanted to over the years.
Will be interesting to see if the bucket list gets longer and more adventurous as I head into my 50s.
