Hey lovely RD. I can understand why you would want to make these plans. The house you are in at the moment is the house you were in as a couple. It has remained both of yours in a way and your W can come and go...which has perhaps suited everyone this far.

I guess the further away from BD we get, the more it makes sense to go about getting more separateness, and selling the house would probably achieve that. You would buy a house that is for RD and the kids and it would be 'your' house, not 'ours.' Great if that also makes financial and practical sense - makes your life easier.

It may just be that you are ready to take this next step forward. Soon after BD if I thought of selling our house, it was too painful. The house was a symbol of 'us' and hard to let go. I think it will still be difficult to face the finality of it being sold - perhaps at a similar time to our D being finalised, but I'm certainly more ready than I was and I know it makes sense.

But, as you say it's a good idea to let the idea settle and truly see if that feels right to you. There's no rush and Spring is a good time to sell if that's what you choose. Presumably your W has an interest in the marital home and would need to agree in order for it to be sold?

So, is it family movie night tonight?? What's on the menu for you and the kids my friend?? Have a lovely evening & take care. Thanks for your kind posts on my thread. You truly are a nice man and I have such respect and fondness for you.

Xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus