Julie, that is the exact question I struggle with every day. My daughter is tough, I can see why H has "given up" with her ( I haven't given up and I won't, but I can see his point) but my sons are amazing. They say the funniest things, right now one of them is playing star wars music on the piano and the other is running through the house with a group of friends and boasting about various feats of strength and life saving skills. These boys deserve stability and love and a family. They are literally bundles of joy and life and innocence. Who could create this and then just walk away?