Slow and steady .. Only way to get through the fog

[mleigh4]

Cali, something you posted above has stuck with me. I thought about it last night. You said you feel your wife is happy having her family back but not ready for much more than that.

Strangely, I realized that is a lot like how I feel, what I want. I want my family unit back again. There is a huge comfort in that, it's safe and comfortable. I figure the connection with H would take time, something that would grow back over time as there has been so much damage done by us both.

So, I wonder if that is the case for your W. She must feel a huge comfort having you and S there. I know it must be frustrating that it is all on her terms, but it's all she can be right now. You guys are her rocks as she works through her issues....for whatever reason, it makes so much sense to me. Could be that was the case for me as I went through my own mini fog. I knew H loved me, I knew he was there for me, and him and S were like my lifejacket as I lashed about in the water.

I think you are very important to her, more than you know and way more than she can tell you right now. My H stood back and let me lash about until I was done, kind of like a parent who watches their child try to walk, but is there if they get hurt. IDK, just sounds like a place your W may be right now.

I wish you the best Cali. Don't forget all that Jedi training you got! Did you see the new Star Wars yet?