New guy

[mbebos]

Just got back from the grandfather gift giving. It went really well, she was tense at first, I could tell she wanted to get it over with, but my attitude affected hers. I went in AS IF it was going to go well, and it did. She turned her body language towards me, relaxed, and we had a nice conversation about her work, and responsibilities for the rest of the year. She asked if I would want to come to the house with the family Christmas eve, and I accepted. She went to her phone a few times during the conversation, but when I didn't do the same, she came right back. Her eyes looked so bright and alive for the first time in a long time.

I didn't pursue, I kept it cool, laughed with her and her parents, and before things got stale, I stood up, said good bye to the in laws, and she hugged me for a good long while, and I left. It was a soft meaningful hug, not a cold mandatory hug, and I now know the difference. We talked briefly about our therapy plans (individual), and overall a good hour.

She is opening up to her mom in tiny little tidbits, but I haven't spoken to her mom about it , because I don't want to cause an issue where she thinks her mom is on my side. She did say that before we can work on us, she needs to work on herself, after the first of the year.

Today is now a good day from a bad start.