Ancaire, thank you. :-) I keep focusing on doing this work for my personal development more than anything. That way I know it will be worth it, regardless. I hope.

SciDad, I'm sorry you're in this difficult situation, too. I will try to catch up on your situation as soon as I can. Very pressed for time right now.

It's been a bad day. I didn't feel good starting out, and H did the same thing he does on all his days off - disappears from the morning (we don't even have coffee or breakfast together) with a friend, for a 'quick errand' that ends up taking 5 hours. It's frustrating that he wants to live like a bachelor and still have all the benefits of marriage.

We had a pretty big fight tonight, and I was shocked at how nasty he can get without even trying to hold back.

But he finally sent the final goodbye mail to OW, so I guess that's a good thing.


M 16 yrs, WH62, P54
3 adult blended kids
EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15
Separated 4/16
WH moved OW in 5/16
Divorced 6/15/17