yes all the books and links really do help and now its just time it takes a lot of time for us to heal and while we are healing , we will see what direction it all unfolds sometimes they return but we do this work for us..to get better good that you are taking care of yourself know that it gets better I used to think I wanted my xh back more than anything I never thought I would get over him but I did and we all do either way, we are ok and you will read it on the boards over and over than the LBS is the one who comes out ok and most of thime even better than b4
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