so much hurt and anger

[peacetoday]

You don't have to go to dinner--its up to you
but if its makes things easier for you for him to bring food for the kids
then I say yes

you can always excuse yourself
run an errand while he is there
ask if it would be ok to leave and take time for you so even if you don't feel like his presence maybe the kids can be with him and you can disappear for a while