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Is it wrong to expect someone to be nice to us in exchange for being nice to them?


Of course not. But it IS wrong to get all bent out of shape when they do not.

It IS wrong to pursue someone with 'niceness' when they don't want it and don't reciprocate.

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I was not in control. I was depressed, and a recluse, and miserable.


This is because you were not in control of yourself. That's what it's time to do now: get YOU back.

The first step in doing that is letting go of any unhealthy attachment you have to your W and committing to your own personal growth.