She was in control of everything. I was not in control. I was depressed, and a recluse, and miserable. Yes. Often, I did what she wanted. I had, and have, lost who I was, what I wanted out of life, and how to get it.
OK - I think now you are getting to some things you need to work on. And don't feel bad about this. It is a typical LBS type thing that we are codependent, enabling and conflict avoiders.
Thinking that if we are nice to our partners and then EXPECTING them to be nice to us in exchange.
