Cali, I think the attraction is that we are "fixers". I certainly didn't have any childhood issues to deal with and yet, my xh was the poster child for MLC and still is this very day.
You learned good coping skills as a child and were able to deal w/your own issues and I don't think your childhood issues, etc. attracted your wife to you. Your wife felt safe w/you and knew you were "stable" and are a good provider and husband/father, i.e., maybe the opposite of what she had at home as a child. Unfortunately, we never know what will happen after we are married and we certainly didn't learn about MLC in biology class many, many years ago.
