dday, getting out of the muck

[dday]

Fogg, I agree it's cake. We live in a small tight-knit town, it will be noticed.

Fo, u are awesome yourself. Thanks. This may or may not be the first thing to break her fog, it may not. I don't feel right being around her right now. I still have my feelings towards the old her.

Whyus, my W thinks we can be buddies and act like a couple in public when it suits her. I'm tired of fulfilling her needs and getting nothing in return. I am left hurting after these events.


Thanks for checking on me!

[JksD]

Possible to have a compromise? Sit near but not together?

But you're right, you may have to make a statement by not always giving her what she wants. By this time, you should do what makes you comfortable.

[ARose]

I'd sit close enough so the spitballs can hit her in the head. But not so close that she thinks you are there with her.

I am sorry, angry phase spilling over into my advice.

[mutatio]

You not sitting with her is the logical conclusion to her choice to divorce you. She cannot have it both ways. I recommend you do what you want. You are no longer obligated to fulfill her needs. You can do so when you want but are not bound to.

It's important that you are true to yourself. Do what you want to do.

[dday]

Thanks guys. I ended up sitting in the same pew, with kids (some not even my own) between us. Later, she sat next to me so I got up and walked away. Didn't really talk to her, said hi to her parents. This stinks, but I'm ok

[pinn]

way to be dday... I know how tough that must have been. I am impressed with your control. Keep it going

[mutatio]

Don't feel like you have to follow a script. No more guarded, second guessing yourself dday. Be the kind caring father and by extension man you are. When you want to talk, talk. When you want to walk, walk. In doing so be the man you chose to be.

[ARose]

Don't feel like you have to follow a script. No more guarded, second guessing yourself dday. Be the kind caring father and by extension man you are. When you want to talk, talk. When you want to walk, walk. In doing so be the man you chose to be.

Dday, I want to say that Mutatio is 100% right. I am getting to that point and that is what is helping me drop the rope. Be who you are, genuine and act with kindness, but be who you are.

[dday]

I have had a tougher time with s4 this morning. He asked me why I won't come home, and in his mind it is my fault. According to him, W said that I can come home anytime I want. Where would he get that idea? He told me that I need to talk to mommy about it.

A few minutes ago, while playing Playstation, he stops and says that the most important thing in life is having family. I said, you are right buddy. I asked him if he ever talks to W and he said no. I don't think they feel safe talking to her anymore. Whenever they did talk, she blamed it on me.

Yuck

[JksD]

Oh dear, that svcks. Have you had this 'mummy and daddy aren't living together any more. So I can't do that. But daddy still loves you the same' with s4?

I bought some books for kid about D and I think they helped her to understand better what was going on.