Yes it would be pursuing but better than talking. OK, what if you took her out to get a surprise for the kids? You already told her you want an hour of her time. She is expecting a talk. You know that will only get you into trouble. Grab her and do something for the kids- go get them a puppy or an xbox or something. Tell her you want to make their christmas extra special since this is potentially the last one you'll have as a family ( got that one from GB.) But be pleasant and fun about it?
Or, just tell her something came up, you need to cancel that hour and do something on your own?
IDK SciDad, I am trying to be helpful but I am probably going to end up divorced so what do I know? All I know is you don't want to talk about your R with her at any cost.
