LOL Vanilla. I have to be so very careful these days. I know this is NOT the time to stand up for myself, yet I find myself doing it more and more frequently. Now that I've found my way out of the cage, I don't like going back in - even if I know I have the choice of going in or out. I hate that cage!
But I need to stop. He is dangerous. He is getting more cruel. I'm not backing down on the ONE thing that really defines him - money - and it is making him crazy. He really believes I am "out to get him" because I'm insisting on a fair settlement. He believes fair is nothing for Anc. He finally came up with something that almost killed him, but it was about half of what I believe I'm due. He is so angry with me for declining that offer, I know he's working on something sneaky.
Mouse, Judy, mouse. I need to stay hidden, quiet, and bite my tongue until it bleeds if necessary. I am not dealing with a nice person. I'm dealing with one who means me harm. My flashes of independence are so hard to resist...until he explodes, and then I'm terrified.
Ancaire, I'm so very sorry for everything you are going through.
I've had some very nasty remarks and contempt from H over the last few years in relation to my chronic illness, and I think it's another part of vilifying us to be able to push us away without feeling so bad about what they're doing.
I think it's the same reason for telling you to move - your presence is a reminder of how bad he is behaving, so he wants you gone. The anger you see, is really frustration over how he feels about himself.
Don't take it personally, it's really not about you. But keep safe!
And I would tell your L about OW's criminal background. It may come into play at some point so she should know if she doesn't already.
Thank you for stopping by, Painter! I swear, this post was not up earlier, or I would have acknowledged you.
Thanks so much for the support. It really does help.
I never considered telling my L about Skank. I believe an e-mail is on its way!
This will pass. It is not forever. You cant stay at the top of a roller coaster forever, you eventually come back down. When you choose, you can even get off.
jerkface texted me this morning. I read it and then ignored it. HA!
I am not saying you should ignore him. I dont think you should purposely rile him up. But you can reply without being pulled in.
"I cant sleep in the same house as you, im scared....blah blah blah"
You can reply "Okay"
I would not validate with "I'm sorry you feel that way" I would not apologize in any way right now.
Maybe you can play with that grandbaby today and get your mind off everything for an hour.
Me: 42 H: 45 M: 18 yrs T: 20 yrs D: 17 D: 15 S: 12 I kicked him out 8/21/15 I will DB until March 21st 2017, that is it!
I agree with V, you need to hide behind your L. I feel H is pushing all his anger towards you as I believe he is feeling guilty. My H is like that when it doesn't go his way or he isn't happy he becomes nasty!
Hang in there. You have so much courage and I admire you for this :-)
