October 11

[Bfice3]

Everyone, everyone, I mean everyone I talk to says I need to move on and give her the space she needs.

I dont believe that these are mutually exclusive.

Look - you need to give her space. The more you try to control or influence her, the more she will fight against you. So, yes, you need to leave her to her own doings.

But why does that mean you need to "move on"? No. I reject that idea. What you should be doing is taking a long, hard look in the mirror, and really instilling the change you want from inside of you. Figure out the man you want to be and grow into that. Only then, will you have a shot with your W anyway.



Welcome to the boards, B. Have you read Divorce Remedy?

I didn't mean for them to sound mutually exclusive. When I say move on...I mean move with my life and me becoming my own man. Independent of my wife. Recreating myself in the image of what and who I want to be. I still want to reconcile. But the man I was...that guy...I don't ever want him to exist in the world again.

Yes, I have the book. I've read most of it. Skimming some in the middle.