She's thinking of leaving again2

[Sotto]

W - How are you?
S - Pretty good thanks. How are you doing?

W - What are you doing?
S - I've been pretty busy. Went to a great cookery class last week, and joined a couple of Meetups. (Change to a safe subject) how's work going?

W - How do feel about us?
S - Well, I would never have chosen for our M to end, but I respect your choice if that's what you want.

W - I'm not sure how things will work out with OM. But I need to see where this goes. I understand if you don't feel you can wait for me.
S - I hear what you're saying. I don't plan to put my life on hold while you have an extramarital R with someone else.

W - OM's a bit mean to me sometimes actually
S - Is that so? I can't offer a friendly ear to you WRT your R with OM. I'm sure you'll understand.

W - Do you miss me?
S - Of course there are things I miss about us being together - we had some good times.

W - I think it's for the best. I know you and S will be fine.
S - Well, this would never have been my choice, but I'm moving forward and I know I'll be okay. I'm sure we'll both carry on being there for S.

W - Do you still love me.
S - I haven't stopped loving you. But I respect your choice if our M is no longer what you want.

W - Would you like us to be together again?
S - As I said, I haven't stopped loving you. But I'm not interested in a R with anyone where there is a third party in the mix.

I would have a good look at the validation and boundaries cheat sheets and I would also think of some safe subjects to fall back on if you want to make convo. Work, what S is up to, the weather, cooking duck, other fun social things you have done, and so on.

Also, do try and limit yourself to an hour and don't try and extend the time with her...have someone call you after an hour if needs be...

Plus, I would consider the L advice, even if you privately consult someone for your own peace of mind....up to you of course though.

Hope this helps xx