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Slowly but surely i have been distancing myself from my W. Simetimes i am busy, other times i need headspace and other times i juste dont like being there and not being able to be a normal couple.I don't think that I have been cold. So I guess I am within the guidelines here.

I am getting out, meeting people and slowly getting a life.
BBut mostly I am at the house. So is W. Neither of us is moving in any direction.

My IC thinks I am at a decision phase where I have more or less decided enough is enough. She thinks I need to talk to W. I have that urge too. I don't want to talk to get her to stay. More so to say that our current situation is not sustainable.I don't want to pressure her to stay or to leave. Michele said recently that before giving up you should express yourself to your spouse.

Many say actions speak louder than words. I am trying to move on and show that I'll be OK.

I have also contacted the guy who's program I bought before I found Michelle. He gave some tips. Also asked me to work on getting excited about a future without W. ..... basically get past fears and embrace how much better it potentially could be. I guess this is mentally preparation for moving on. When I am in a good place about that, he suggests talkingto W.

My path seems to be leading me to talk to W. I am on this site as I have chosen it as my guide, so please guide me.

All sources of info tell me to work on me, take pressure off W and to give it time. This I am doing.

Cadet, txhubby, sandi, azork..... ..... and anyone else reading this I would appreciate your input/views/comments
I know what I need to work on for me. I just not sure what way to be with W .
I can't even decide if I should get her something for Christmas this year. I want to be a good husband so I want to. I also don't want to because of where we are. Being indecisive is one of my traits to change next year.