so much hurt and anger

[peacetoday]

Hi

I don't think there is any one right way to do this
I had my xh visit a lot at the beginning after he moved out
I didn't stop that
I wanted to show him I valued him and I could change
so I became very supportive
It didn't bring him back but It did create a very comfortable home setting for the transition
It created a friend and wife who wanted to be there for him
it created change in me
It was very painful
I had supportive friends
I went to alanon meetings--it helped me through it

this program is about us..so we can change and go within
sometimes a spouse will choose to come home
sometimes it takes time because they are in crises --a real crises that has little to do with us
But if we use their crisis for our growth good will come to us
doors will open
new friends and support appears
we change and become better more compassionate
I can't begin to hare all the good that has come from this
MY XH never got better..he is absent and still in crises as far as I know-I don't wish that on him but it was not in my control

please don't give up
trust that it will get better,,you will heal your kids need to see a strong mother right now
fake it till you make it