2 months today and I feel like I might have taken another step forward. We still share accounts and after receiving a large amount of clothes shopping I decided to analyze our spending since the day she left. I divided into what I considered to be mine, family and hers. She outspent the total family expense by a few hundred and me by 3 to 1. Little of it is to do with cost of setting up her new flat with OM who I assume must contribute as well. I've emailed her the bald details without comment and followed with a second email outlining future costs to pay in January. I didn't even freak out when I saw the one bill for lingerie! Something which I'm sure I would have a short time back. I think after New Year I'll sit down with a proposal for a division of money, taking S as our priority of course. I'm still in love, dream of her coming back but I think it is good to show I'm keeping an eye on everything and am not her fool. We texted civilly enough today to sort out S's Christmas presents. I'm sure she'll find an excuse to come to one of his basketball matches in the next couple of days. Could be an interesting conversation!
