1. expectations cannot be lower than they already are. My H promised to get my son on Tuesday, he never showed, I did not react. He promised to chaperon for New Years so I can go out. I have a backup strategy in place. I have a few web cams. I can monitor the kids from where I am. It is 3 minutes from my house. Every time the band takes a break, I can drive home and see them. I can use the cams to monitor in between. They are good kids, so I am not worried.
2. I promise I heard you and i will TRY not to criticize him. It is SOOOOOO hard.
3. Done Done Done. I have said no every time so far. It will kill me when he gets evicted. But I will not save him, period. Every time the thought touches my brain I will post here.
4. This one has me scratching my head. He is doing nothing helpful in the slightest for me to thank him for. But I will keep both eyes open.
5. Heard you loud and clear. No more anger. No lashing out. Smile and shake my head.
6. I can do this. No arguments or heated discussions or R talks. Neutral pleasant, non-pressuring conversations only.
As for the dating. I will go very, very carefully. I will be honest with anyone that I am unavailable for a R if they get close. I desperately want to work through some personal issues with image and figuring out needs, so I hope to find a willing partner.
Me: 42 H: 45 M: 18 yrs T: 20 yrs D: 17 D: 15 S: 12 I kicked him out 8/21/15 I will DB until March 21st 2017, that is it!
